What is your “Aw Factor?” Once you discover it, are you willing to embrace it?
So you want to know what an “Aw Factor” is? To answer the first two questions, I guess you need to know what an aw factor is. Your aw factor is not whether you do something that elicits “oohs” and “ahhs” from passersby. It’s not being as cute as a newborn baby. It’s not even talking in a sweet, innocent Southern accent.
Instead, you have three aw factors. These are things at which you are awesome, awkward and awful. To experience a fulfilling and joyful life, understanding your aw factors is mandatory. It is also mandatory if you want to provide the most value to others. In general, if you want to lead a purposeful and meaningful life, you must know what your aw factors are.
The Awesome Factor
What is it about you that make people say, “Wow, I wish I could be like that!” What you think your greatest strength is might not really be true. You likely believe your greatest strength is something at which you are comfortable. But your awesomeness might really shine through with something at which you have not yet mastered.
For example, one of my strengths is being task-oriented. I get great joy by crossing things off my to-do list. In fact, I’ll write small tasks down on the list even after I already completed them just so I can cross them off. But, that is not my awesome factor.
Instead, I believe my awesome factor is my ability to communicate with people at their individual levels. I can explain difficult concepts to a young child in simple ways. I can talk to a sophisticated person and she think I’m on her same level. I believe that is why I enjoy writing so much.
A great book I’ve heard about but have not yet read is StrengthsFinder 2.0. It’s on my ever-growing wish list of books to read. From what I’ve heard, there is an online test portion to this book that at the end of taking it, will provide you with your five greatest strengths.
Even though I think I know what my awesome factor is, I am looking forward to solidifying my assumption by reading that book. Do you know what your awesome factor is? If not, hopefully you want to discover it. Once you do and you start working from the base of that awesome factor, your life will be so much more fulfilling and AWESOME.
The Awkward Factor
You can’t be awesome at everything. You can be great at certain things and average at others. The awkward factor describes those tendencies or abilities that are not yet perfected. It is something you enjoy but are not yet comfortable at doing. Maybe you’re even a little embarrassed by doing it.
For me, creating this blog and integrating it into my personal brand was awkward. Certain pieces of that process are still awkward. Writing is my awesome factor (hopefully you think so too) but the other facets of running a blog are awkward.
I thoroughly enjoy the process but I’m not yet comfortable with it all. I used to be embarrassed by saying I was a writer. What was there to be embarrassed about? Absolutely nothing. I’ve already accomplished more with my writing than most people ever will. Now I’m proud of what I’ve accomplished.
Once you figure out your awkward factor, determine whether you want it to become an awesome factor. With a lot of intentional hard work, you can make that happen. Maybe you have an awkward factor but don’t want to work at it. That’s okay too. You don’t have to be a “master of all.” It’s okay to be average in certain things if you know what your awesome factor is too.
The Awful Factor
You will not, and cannot, be awesome at everything. You can’t even be average at everything. You will simply be awful at some things. Hopefully, there is not much at which you are awful but you will have some. What are those things?
Maybe you’re awful at creating things without instructions. You might not have any artistic ability whatsoever. That’s okay. Maybe you don’t relate well or communicate well with children. That’s okay too.
Regardless of what your awful factor is, as long as you know what it is, you can find ways to stay away from having to do those activities that would involve that ability. A word of warning though. Just because you think you are awful at something does not mean you are. It could very well be that you are uncomfortable with such an activity. The lack of comfort does not mean you’re awful.
For example, more people are afraid of public speaking than they are of death. Just because you’re scared of public speaking does not mean you’re awful at it. When I was young, I was deathly afraid of speaking in front of a group. Now, I cherish the moments I get to do so.
Most things in life come down to making decisions and having the proper attitude. Unfortunately, talent is not one of those things. You either have talent or you don’t. To be clear, however, you can enhance a talent by deciding to do so and having a proper attitude. If you don’t have a talent for something though, you likely will never have it.
Always have a positive attitude and decide to do your best. That is a universal truth to live a happy life. You need to have a positive attitude toward all three of your aw factors. Embrace them and do the most with what you’ve been blessed.