Have you ever recorded yourself and then listened to it? You don’t sound like what you think you do. Most people don’t like listening to themselves on recordings. However, what you say is much more important than the sound of your voice.
If you pay close attention to what you say every day, you will discover that you say certain things that either don’t make sense or add nothing to what you are saying. As you continue reading, think about whether you say these things or know someone who does.
I would – There is a local radio commercial for a window and door company in which the celebrity endorsing the product says, “I would recommend [Company A] to everybody.” I always think, “Why aren’t you recommending the company now? Why do you want to wait to recommend it? If you would recommend it, it means there are conditions to that recommendation because you’re not doing it now.”
Even though I’ve heard other professional speakers say this as well, I’ve also seen it in formal, written documents. Doesn’t “we do not want it any other way” sound better than “we would not want it any other way”? Of course it does.
Maybe I over analyze what people say (No, I don’t think I’m perfect) but that just doesn’t sound good to me. Does it make sense to you?
I know, right? – Or, as my daughter would text it, IKR. What value does this really bring to the conversation you’re having? How is the listener supposed to respond to that question?
We all know – When my wife (girlfriend at the time) began attending church services with me she got frustrated by the assumption of certain speakers that everyone in the audience knew all the Bible stories. She had not been raised in the church and did not know many Bible stories. Either the preacher or another speaker would say, “We all know the story of …” Well, not everyone knew that story.
Don’t assume that others know what you do. Even the most basic of knowledge you have will be advanced to others. I have to keep this in mind continually as I work with new employees. Even more experienced employees may not have the experience in financial services like I do. We all don’t know.
Uh or Um– You, um, use this more than you think. Be cognizant to listen to yourself talk and you will notice the frequency at which this is said. It’s typically not too annoying if said quietly and infrequently but when said loudly and often, it hurts my ears.
So – So, how often do you end a sentence and then use this word. It’s overused at the beginning of a sentence (see previous sentence) but that typically sounds natural. When you use it as a filler after a sentence but don’t complete a thought with it, then it sounds bad.
You know – I know of someone who every time she stands in front of people for a presentation, she will begin her remarks with “You know.” She doesn’t even know she says it. If she did, she would realize that not everyone knows what she will say next.
I mean – I know you mean what you are saying; you’re saying it. There is rarely a time when you need to use this term because it is inherent in what you are saying.
And – “And” is probably the second most-used filler behind “uh.” You should not make every sentence a compound sentence by using a conjunction. Simple sentences are easier to understand anyway. Along with “so,” don’t use “and” after a sentence just because you don’t know what you’re going to say next.
And my all-time favorite…
I’ll tell you the truth or I’m not going to lie – When people have said either of these phrases to me, I usually reply with, “I hope you always tell the truth.” If you preference a statement with one of these phrases, it implies that you do not tell the truth unless you use that phrase. That is not what you want to portray.
So, how often do you use any of these terms? We all know, uh, it can get really old to hear people stumble over their words. You know, if you tell the truth, I’ll believe you. And…
Do you think about what you are saying?