Kids say the cutest things. From their first words to an expanding vocabulary in their later years, what kids say can be so cute. If we could only record everything they say.
We’re amazed when they say their first words. We’re shocked when they use words they shouldn’t. Our hearts are warmed when they express feelings. Shouldn’t we be more like our children?
I love you
Children say “I love you” to parents, siblings, other family and friends. They mean what they say. Children love unconditionally even when that demonstration of love is not reciprocal. They love because they are loving.
What about you? Besides your children, to whom else do you say, “I love you”? You hopefully tell your spouse (if you’re married of course) but too many people don’t feel the need to share that sentiment even with a spouse.
Don’t be afraid to open up and expose your soul. Tell others you love them. Kids say it and so should you.
You’re the best
What an awesome compliment. When was the last time you were told you were the best at anything. My daughters tell my wife and I we’re the best all the time. One day I’m the best cook in the world. They next day my wife is. It doesn’t matter to us. All that matters is that our daughters love giving compliments.
“You’re the best” can be a very daunting compliment. Is someone you know really the best? Everyone is the best at something. Even if it’s the best at being him or herself, we are each the best at something.
When you use this phrase, you’re really just showing appreciation. You’re telling someone they are worth something. You build confidence in others when you show appreciation. Try it today. Kids say it and so should you.
Will you play with me?
Kids always want someone to play with. They want attention, friendship, compassion. Unfortunately, as parents, we just want our children to play by themselves. We have other things to do like clean the dishes or fold laundry.
Then, when our kids turn 18, graduate high school and move away to college, we realize it’s too late. They no longer as us to play games with them. They’re not even home long enough to ask.
We should stop being so focused on what we have to do and instead focus on what we should do. We should “work” less and play more. We should enjoy our time with family and friends instead of thinking of all the “stuff” that has to get done at the house.
You know what, if you take 10 minutes and play a game with your child, those dishes will still be there. You wish they would run away but they won’t. But they will still be there. Enjoy your time.
Next time, ask your child, “Will you play with me?” instead of waiting for your child to ask you.
It’s the question that never ends. Why? Because there is always more to know. Children are inquisitive. They want to know why things happen or how things work. So, they ask why.
Do you wonder why construction crews block of 10 miles of highway so they can work on a 100 foot-long bridge? Do you wonder why the boss doesn’t fire poor performers quickly? Do you wonder why gas stations all increase their prices within hours of each other?
You’re unlike children. Children don’t just wonder. They ask why. They keep asking until they are satisfied with the answer. Ask “Why?” more often. Kids say it and so should you.
I want to help you
My youngest daughter wants to help do everything. Her helping is very simple. She can put her hand on my arm while I stir food in a bowl and she believes she’s helping.
She tells me, “I want to help you.” She wants to help for two reasons. First, she knows helping is a nice thing to do. Second, she wants to spend time with me.
Do you ask others if you can help, especially at work and in the home? If you do ask if you can help, congratulations. You do more than most. But, what about that qualifier of “want”? Do you want to help or you just ask because you know you should.
We need to change our attitudes from asking to help because we know we should to saying, “I want to help you. What can I do?” It’s not just the result that always matters. It’s also the intent. Children want to help and so should you.
Are we done yet?
There are the five things kids say that you should say more often. Let’s be more like children and enjoy life for all its simple pleasures. Let’s love because we are loved, show appreciation because its nice, play because its fun, ask because we’re curious and help because we want to. Kids do them and so should you.