Communication comes in many forms: verbal, written, visual and non-verbal. Communication is at the heart of most issues and their resolutions. It’s the key to a successful relationship with a spouse, friend and co-worker. It can be the key to receiving a job promotion or being passed over. If you critically think about communication, you will realize that everything you do results in some form of communication that can be interpreted differently by others.
Because of the importance of communication in our lives, I thought it would be a good topic about which I could write a series of related posts. So, over the next several months, there will be several posts related to communication secrets I have learned and witnessed.
By no means am I an expert in communicating with others. I’m not sure there is someone who is perfect with all facets of communication. You can be good at certain forms but terrible at others. You probably know someone who speaks well but writes terrible or who dresses to impress but cusses like a sailor.
The most important thing is to be willing to improve. My wife and I attended a marriage retreat several years ago. We didn’t attend because we were having troubles. Instead, we attended because we know we can always have a stronger relationship. We want to improve!
Our marriage has been successful because of our communication abilities. Granted, we were best friends for 11 years before she finally gave in to my persistent proposals. It helps that we could talk about everything and nothing before we even got together.
We did have a little trouble though after we started dating. I traveled a lot at that time and was always working late. We talked more on the phone than we did in person. We’d talk during my commute or I’d call from a remote hotel room in a small town. Cell phone service back then was not as good as it is today. I usually heard about every third word she said. Then, she’d tell me later that we already talked about a certain topic and I didn’t think we had.
It was amazing how much better we communicated after we got married. It was because we got to see each other every day rather than just talking on the phone. Thankfully, we realized we had a problem and we worked to resolve it.
Too many people have weaknesses in certain communication skills but don’t do anything to overcome them. This series will help you recognize and improve some of your weaknesses. It will also help you identify your strengths and push you toward highlighting those strengths.
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