Do you hold yourself to a higher standard or do you think you are better than everyone else? How do you react when in a conflict? Do you try to get even or do you turn the other cheek?
I think of myself as being able to get along with anyone. Even if I don’t particularly like a person, I still act as civil and polite as I can. In essence, I try to kill with kindness.
But, recently I’ve been very frustrated with someone and have not held myself to the higher standard I should. Instead, I acted like I was better than this person and complained about the situation to everyone who would listen. It took up way too much of my attention, time and energy.
What To Do
You must be intentional with your thoughts and actions in order to live according to a higher standard. The following are some actions you can do to overcome the situation:
- Recognition – You must recognize when you’re lowering your standards and not treating other people with respect. You will not change your actions unless you recognize you’re part of the problem. If you can’t concentrate on the task at hand because you keep thinking about this other person, you have a problem.
- Cease and Desist – Stop complaining. After recognizing I wasn’t helping the situation, I decided to stop complaining about it. Even my wife told me I had too much negative energy. You will only make things seem worse by continuing to complain about it.
- The Golden Rule – Do unto others as you would have them do unto you. Unfortunately, many people believe the golden rule to be, “Do unto others as they do unto you.” Treat others the same way as you want to be treated, not as you are treated. I failed this miserably at the beginning but quickly changed my viewpoint.
I don’t know how my situation will turn out. I’ve taken the three steps above. It’s now up to me to continue steps two and three. What actions have you taken to resolve personal conflicts? Leave a comment below and let me know.