I’ve been thinking. That can be a most dangerous and enlightening phrase. Whenever my wife says, “I’ve been thinking,” I automatically say, “No.” Then, I tell her I’m joking and ask how much money she wants to spend. It’s a little game we play.
But now I’ve been thinking. I’ve had several hours today waiting to board and waiting to get off of planes. I recently wrote a post about what to do in an airport. See it here.
This is different. I’ve been enlightened from my experiences over the last week. Those experiences made me really think.
I’ve been thinking about:
Judging – Sometimes I find myself judging others. I know I shouldn’t. I don’t do it purposefully. I regret it when I realize I’ve been doing it.
Everyone has a right to the make their own choices. I can disagree with those choices but I shouldn’t judge the person. That person still has feelings, and most importantly, a soul.
I’ve known for a long time that pride is my biggest weakness. Even though I consider myself a leader of people, I’ve been careful with my leading style because I don’t want to be prideful. I want to be proud of what I accomplish but not to the level at which I’d judge someone.
I’ve been thinking; will you join me and stop judging others?
Opinions – You may think the best way to accomplish something is different from the way I think is best. You may have different opinions on someone’s strengths. We sometimes have to disagree.
Agreeing to disagree really is a powerful statement. Compromise is when at least two people agree to not agree on what they both think are the best solutions. We need to compromise more. More progress would be made.
Of course, if we firmly believe in something, we should not compromise. A company’s culture could be viewed like this. Two companies discussing a merger should always talk about culture. The company that feels most strongly about its culture will either be the succeeding company or the merger will not occur.
I’ve been thinking; will you join me and make more compromises when it make sense to do so?
Differences – People are different. No where in the world is this more apparent than in a big international airport. As I sit here in Chicago O’Hare, I am witnessing many different people.
We dress differently. We act differently. We talk differently. That doesn’t make me better than you or you better than me. It makes us different. We were made to be that way.
Can you imagine if we all dressed, acted and talked the same? How boring life would be! We would not have any innovation in the world. We would all be zombies walking through boring lives.
I’ve been thinking; will you join me and embrace our differences?
Like and dislike – You will not like everyone. We should do our best to get along with everyone. That doesn’t mean we need to have everyone over for a barbecue.
While worshipping with a church in Kentucky last week, the preacher emphatically exclaimed, as it related to the sermon, that he does not like everyone. Yes, a preacher said that. That grabbed my attention.
Even those whom we hold to a higher standard, like preachers, don’t like everyone from a personality point-of-view. I know, though, that particular preacher cares for everyone and wants the best for everyone.
The trick to dealing with people you do not like is to deal with them as little as possible. If you have to talk, be civil. It’s not rude to not like everyone. But you should treat all people with respect.
I’ve been thinking; will you join me and start treating people with respect, regardless of whether you like them?
Unlike when my wife says she’s been thinking, acting on the things above will not cost you a thing. Being kind, showing respect and being happy are all free. In fact, you will gain so much more.
What have you been thinking about lately?