When you reach the end of your life and are able to look back, will you regret working so much? Likely, you will. You will look back and wish you would have spent more quality time with your family and shared more experiences with them.
You can’t keep doing things the way you always have and expect them to change. That is the layman’s definition of insanity.
How can you make that end-of-life wish a reality today? You have to change something to realize that dream of maximizing quality time with your family. Following are five ideas you can implement today to show your family how important they are to you and spend quality time with them.
1. Be Present – The most important factor in determining quality time is being present. Being present means being focused. When you push your children on the swing, push with focus. Don’t be thinking of being somewhere else and don’t be checking Facebook on your phone.
When you play a game with your children, turn the TV off so you won’t be distracted by the game. Be in the game with your children. Teach them, laugh with them, learn from them, spend quality time with them.
2. Little Things – Remember when you were dating your spouse and you did all the little things he or she liked? Remember the joy those little things brought about. What happened to those little things?
Quality time is not about maximizing time. It’s about maximizing the enjoyment of the experiences shared in the time you have. If you do the little things for your family, those experiences will be remembered forever.
3. Surprises – When is the last time you surprised your spouse or your kids with a special treat? Do you even remember? They do. If it was a long time ago, they still remember. Wouldn’t it be great to make their day and surprise them again?
You can plan a weekend get-away with your spouse, a trip to the frozen yogurt place with the kids or stay home for a day. Surprises are easy but we often make them difficult. The quality time spent with your family because of a surprise will do wonders.
4. One-on-One – Nothing tells someone how much you care more than quality time alone with him or her. Take your daughter out for a daddy/daughter date. Ask your spouse to meet you for lunch in the middle of the work day.
We often believe quality time with family means the entire family has to be present. While that is great and will reinforce love and trust within the family, one-on-one time will mean the most. Of course, if you have multiple children, you need to have one-on-one time with each of them.
5. Eat together – In this crazy, helicopter parenting world, spending quality time at the dinner table as a cohesive family has become a forgotten art. We’re whisking this way and that and rushing to get kids in bed. Dinner is something you eat in the car, not at the dining room table.
Eat together and watch your family grow closer. Ban digital devices like mobile phones and iPads. Turn off the TV. The secret to making dinner time quality time is the conversation the family can have.
We’re not perfect.
Perfection is impossible. However, it does not mean you should not strive to reach it. Don’t you want to have the perfect marriage with perfect kids? Keep trying. Spend quality time with your family, collectively and individually, and your family will grow closer.
What other ways can you create quality time with family?