Of course I took off on Christmas (a Wednesday) and I have made it a practice to not work on Sundays.
Thankfully, my wife still loves me, even though she married an accountant. I work late most days and always work Saturdays. She still loves me.
She may not like that she married an accountant but she’s a good sport.
Even with the long days, weekends and out-of-town trips, we’ve maintained a good marriage. No, I take that back. We have a great marriage and it keeps getting better.
How can this be? I’m pretty confident it is NOT because she doesn’t like me to be home. She always tells me she wants me home more. I try to be. When I am able to be home, I’m home. By that I mean, I put my phone away, don’t check email and don’t turn on the laptop.
If I need to work, we talk about it and work out a plan. Communication. Simply put, that is what makes our relationship work so well. We talk about everything. She’s my best friend. She’s a great listener. She keeps me grounded.
Enough about me. What about you?
If your spouse married an accountant, how do you manage that relationship? How well do you communicate? I can almost guarantee that most arguments between an accountant and a spouse are because of poor communication.
You need to communicate your expectations. Your spouse needs to communicate hers. If those expectations differ, you need to communicate in order to compromise. It really is that simple.
If you have children, life gets more complicated. There are more activities to attend, more money to spend, more troubles to discuss. Life may get complicated but communication is not.
Communicate with each other about your priorities. Hopefully, your priorities align. Your spouse should be your priority. The kids should not be. Sure, your kids deserve your attention and your love. But, you must concentrate on your spouse. If you make your spouse feel special and loved, your kids will get that too.
Even though this is written for someone married to an accountant, it is really applicable to all couples. Communication is always the key.
Post in the comments below any tips you have for improving communication with your spouse. What tricks have you used? Let me know because even though I communicate well with my wife, it can always get better. It can for you too.